Hey there friend,
Have you ever tried to clean out a closet and found yourself sitting in the middle of the mess, surrounded by piles of forgotten items, wondering how it got this bad? That’s what growth feels like sometimes. It’s sitting in the chaos, knee-deep in the messy middle, questioning how you’ll get through it—but knowing you can’t stop now.
Growth isn’t clean or polished. It’s not this perfectly linear process where you check off a neat to-do list. Oh no, sister. Growth is glorious chaos. It’s painful, humbling, messy, and uncomfortable. I know because I’ve lived it.
I’ve walked through fire more times than I care to count and come out the other side stronger, wiser, and more me. The pain, the lessons, the heartbreak? They didn’t break me. They built me. And as much as it hurt, I can honestly say I am thankful for every single step of my messy, winding path.
Learning to Be Thankful for the Mess
Here’s the thing I’ve learned about messy growth. It doesn’t just happen to us. It shapes us. Every hard moment I’ve endured, every tear-stained night, every time I doubted my strength or questioned why God would put me in that situation—it was all part of something bigger.
I often say that I’m honored God trusted me to go through these things. He didn’t give me these battles because He wanted to hurt me; He gave them to me because He knew I’d grow through them. He saw something in me I didn’t yet see in myself.
Without those struggles, I wouldn’t be here now. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today. I wouldn’t have the compassion, the depth, or the ability to connect with other women who feel like the mess of their lives is too much to untangle. Every trial has prepared me to help others walk this same road.
And you know what? Looking back, I can see how every single painful moment led me closer to the life I’m meant to live, closer to the person I’m meant to be. If I hadn’t gone through those things, I wouldn’t be here, writing this for you, reminding you that your messy growth is beautiful too.
The Mess Is What Makes You
When you’re in the middle of it, messy growth doesn’t feel beautiful. It feels overwhelming. It feels heavy. It feels like you’ll never get it together. But listen to me closely, friend. The beauty of messy growth isn’t in its neatness (because ha, there’s no such thing). The beauty comes from what it reveals about you.
Messy growth shows you how strong you are. It forces you to reckon with yourself—to sit in your pain, your beliefs, your patterns, and decide what stays and what needs to go. It’s where your foundation gets rebuilt.
Think of it like planting a garden. The process is messy; you’re digging through dirt, breaking apart roots, maybe finding a few weeds you didn’t realize were choking your soil. But when it’s all said and done, you’ve created space for something beautiful to grow.
That space? That’s your life. Every messy struggle, every hard season, every pivot and stumble is preparing the soil for your next chapter.
You Are Not Alone in This
If you’re feeling lost in your own mess right now, I want you to know two things. First, you are not alone. Not even close. Second, the mess does not define you. It’s not who you are, and it’s not your future.
I’ve been where you are. I’ve felt stuck and broken and unsure of how to move forward. I’ve looked in the mirror and wondered who I even was anymore. But I promise you, this season of growth—even with all its pain and uncertainty—is shaping you.
One day, you’ll look back on this messy, wild, complicated chapter and realize that it wasn’t breaking you after all. It was making you. It was strengthening your voice, sharpening your boundaries, and grounding you in who you really are.
A Beautiful, Messy Reminder
God doesn’t waste anything. Not your tears, not your struggles, not your mess. He’s weaving all of it into a bigger, more beautiful story than you could ever imagine.
It’s okay if it feels hard right now. It’s okay to take it one moment at a time. But don’t you dare give up. You are creating the life you were made for, and the mess is proof that you’re growing. There’s no need to rush or force neatness on this process.
You are in the middle of something beautiful. I see it, and I hope, at least for today, you can see a glimpse of it too.
You’ve got this, friend. And if you’re sitting in the middle of your mess, wondering how to move forward, know that I’m here for you. Reach out if you want to share your story—I’d be honored to hear it.
With love and belief in you,
Angela
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